The secret to getting girls to smile is to be so sexy and self confident they can’t stop themselves from grinning.
But just how does a guy do that?
The key is more about being self confident than trying to be sexy. Usually the sexiest people are the ones who aren’t trying to be sexy and just naturally exude sexiness. We’ve all seen a guy or girl who tries to act sexy and ends up looking like a clown, right? Don’t do that. Instead, forget about being sexy and concentrate on your self-esteem.
High self-confidence is hands down the most attractive trait you can cultivate. Confidence attracts more women than looks alone. IN fact, self-confidence is even more important than looks. This has been proven again and again. So, if you don’t have much self-confidence, this must be priority one in your quest. If you have some decent confidence already, then you still can always work to have more.
The first step to bolstering your self-confidence involves a brutally honest self-analysis. Sit down in a quiet place with a pen and paper. Turn on your favorite music, have a beer, a snack, whatever, but close yourself off from others for a designated period of time.
List your attributes. Do this in a brainstorming type manner. Your list might say nice hair, loyal, fit body, good at telling jokes, and so on. Do this until you fill both sides of a lined page.
Now, take another blank sheet of paper and think about your weaknesses. Don’t write these down. Instead, distinguish among your weaknesses and pick out the ones that might be hurting your self-confidence.
For instance, you might have a stutter. Put that down.
Or, you might be unusually short for a guy. Put that down.
Maybe you have bad acne. Write it down.
Now, go back and look at the things that might be hurting your self-confidence. Be very honest and put a star by the things you can change. For instance, you can, with much time and effort, work on that stammer. Put a star by that.
Too short? Put a circle by that and other things you have little chance of ever changing.
Now, here’s the fun part. For everything that has a star, brainstorm an entire page of possibilities to remedy or change that. Say you are overweight. You might list things, such as no snacking between meals. Joining a gym. Walking to work. And so on.
Now for the things with a circle, I want you to look at your attitude toward them and then make a list of people who are successful despite these same so-called problems. For instance, have you ever seen Jean-Claude Van Damme in person? I have. Super short dude. Practically kid size in height. Does he have a problem getting women? Heck no.
Keep this list in your wallet.
Now, take your starred list and make an action plan. Bite off little steps and then check them off as you do. This simple exercise alone will improve your self-esteem and confidence and have you well on the road to being successful with women.
Does confidence really breed success?