Now, the next step is to impress the heck out of her during that all-important get together.

Your initial instinct might be to raid the savings account and use your pull to make reservations at the new, hottest restaurant in town. I would advise you to ignore that temptation and be a bit more creative.

Most guys automatically think that meeting over food and/or drinks is the safest way to spend time during that first date, but I’m here to tell you that playing it safe is not going to nab you a second date.

Instead, you need to brainstorm and come up with a creative, fun date idea that will show you are a leader of men who knows how to show a girl a good time.

Here are a few ideas to get those creative juices flowing:

1. Pack a picnic. Go buy some really good bread, a selection of gourmet cheeses, a big stick of good Italian salami, some grapes, and two bottles of wine. Pick up a blanket, and some cloth napkins and head for the most romantic spot in your area. That might be the beach, a lush woods area, or a city park. Bring a Frisbee if you want and plan on kicking back having some good conversation. Maybe throw in a rose to up the romantic factor.

2. Host her at your place. If you can cook, now’s your chance to blow her away with your culinary skills. If you can barely boil water, pick up a fine selection of pre-prepared foods you can use to create a fine meal. Be sure to clean your place, first. It should be spotless, especially in the kitchen and bathroom areas. Then, make sure you have romantic lighting and some great music at your fingertips. Make everything warm, soft, and inviting so she’ll want to stay awhile. It never hurts to have a lot of wine and chocolate for dessert, either.

3. Explore. Find out what is going on in your area that might be adventuresome. Check out street fairs, music festivals, amusement parks, art shows, museums, and even bookstore events, such as an author signing or a poetry reading at a cafe. If you find it fascinating and can share your passion about the event with her, she’ll like it, too. Don’t go to anything you might think is boring, however. Find something you like and your enthusiasm will win her over.

Slalom (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

4. Adventuresome. Take her water skiing, surfing, hiking, four-wheel driving, or whatever type of adventuresome activity you find appealing. If she’s not athletic, she can sit in the boat and watch. If it is something that is important to you, you might find her disinterest is a deal breaker, but just like your exploration date idea, if you express enough enthusiasm about it, she can’t help but like you, even if she doesn’t care of the particular activity. Don’t make that your entire date, however. If she seems, bored, then find something she likes to do next.

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Why cant i get a girlfriend? – Yahoo!7 Answers

Although this article will mainly address the third step, how to flirt with girls, we think it’s important to briefly touch on the two preceding steps, just to make sure you are pointed in the right direction. After all, finding women in an appropriate setting where they will be most receptive to being met and flirted with is no small feat. This first step, much like any of the others, depends on the eventual goal you have in mind. If it’s practice you’re after, anywhere is good. Meeting women in a variety of locations will help to calibrate you for any possible encounter. If it’s casual sex that you have in mind, go to where women hang out who are ripe for that sort of thing (just remember when meeting new women, to always get their number so that you can later on run some PUA Text Game on them even if you aren’t able to get them to leave with you that night). Places that release people from the cares of their worlds and their inhibitions are ideal – clubs, concerts, and parties

If you’re looking for a long term relationship or an eventual marriage, it’s important to find women with whom you have as much in common with as possible. Although opposites may initially attract, common interests are essential for building a happy life together. Meet this type of women in your school, your workplace, your gym, and at seminars on topics you are passionate about. Whatever you are looking for, it’s important to be prepared for when fate finally hands you that opportunity.

Flirting with a woman begins with meeting her and you can learn how to do that at this PUA Forum where other guys will share how they do it and give you advice. When you see a woman that you might be interested in meeting, approach her as soon as possible. Waiting will only make you nervous and cause you to over-think your approach, plus it will open you up to other guys who may want to AMOG you. Don’t think, do.

Learning how to flirt with girls, much like any other great endeavor in life, is a linear process that must be accomplished by steps. In order to practice what you learn about how to flirt with a woman you have to have met her first, and in order to meet women you have to have found places where they congregate. For a veteran PUA (also known as a pick up artist), the process generally goes like this: Find them, meet them (this can be done using any one of thousands of standard pua openers that are here), flirt with the goal of attracting them, and then you can move on to whatever close you have in mind, be it eventual marriage, a long term relationship, casual sex, or simply more practice.

One of the best opening pick-up lines is, “Hi.” The truth is that the first thing you say to a woman doesn’t really matter in the long run. Neither of you will most likely remember it. Just make sure that it’s not too short-term so as to shut you down immediately. Questions like, “Excuse me, where’s the bathroom?” will do that. Once you know where the bathroom is, you’d look silly to keep hanging around.

Also, it’s important not to look needy or reverent when approaching her. Complimenting her or offering to buy her a drink right at the beginning tells her that in your eyes she has more value than you. This makes you less attractive to her. Flirting with a woman works best if you both have a perceived value that is more or less equal.

Cover of Mick Jagger

A good way to approach a woman, group of woman, or mixed group out of the blue is to ask the group or individual what they think about something completely random that is on your mind and that you generally are curious about. Tell them with a huge smile that they look like experts and that you want their take on something. Girls and tattoos is a hot topic as is whether or not Mick Jagger is attractive like Ke$ha seems to think. Women will jump at the chance to give you their opinion about any snags in your friends’ relationships, whether the female sex is more attracted to power or looks, and just about anything that was in the latest Cosmopolitan magazine.

Opening up a woman unobtrusively sets the tone for the entire rest of the interaction and doesn’t make it seem like you are just learning how to impress a girl (because you will be cool and calm).. look at that last page to see what happens when you try to hard to impress girls. You can quickly move on from your opener to another interesting topic in order to keep the attention of everyone around. Remember, an amateur will hit on a woman right away. An expert who knows how to flirt will wait about eight to ten minutes. People who know how to flirt start with learning about their targets and letting them earn the right to be flirted with before pulling out the big guns.

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Believe it or not but not every one of those who approach women easily have always been natural. It is only normal to feel insecurities and fear, sometimes very ungrounded. But it is absolutely not normal to let this fear reign over your life. Many guys actually at least have an idea how to approach women. However, they either consider themselves too shy and don’t proceed further, or justify their not taking any actions by some crazy fear that they will be rejected right on spot with a slap across their face or a drink thrown right in it.

The thing is that eventually they will be rejected. Everyone is. But this is surely no reason to shut yourself down and not do anything to change the situation. If you want to know how to approach women and you want to do it right, you have to start with yourself and get rid of all possible fears that you might have.

First of all, bear in mind that having approach anxiety is normal. It is probably not normal not to have it. Who claim they got rid of it either are lying and hiding their own insecurities, or have practiced approaching women so many times that they really have forgotten what approach anxiety is. To make you feel better – the first group is much larger.

If you want to learn how to approach women, the first thing you should do is to fight your insecurities and build a great self-confidence. If you aren’t confident enough, the girl will see it even before you open your mouth. Rejection guaranteed. So before you try and approach a woman, fix your own problems. Build up your inner game, focus on gaining strength, self-confidence and self-respect. Because if you don’t respect yourself enough, who else will?

Once you believe you are confident enough, start approaching women wherever you meet them. Remember that at first rejections might be very common. Don’t fret over it. Just keep on practicing. The art of approaching a woman can be learnt. And if you are a good student you will finally earn your A or A+ .

When you are learning how to approach women, make a list of places where you can meet them. It can be your local grocery store, or international trade show in your city, the conference you go to next month, etc. The list can become pretty long but it serves your purpose which is to practice approaching women which means that you have to meet many women every place possible.

Before you start doing it regularly play some of the scenarios in your head. Play the best case and the worst case scenario. The worst that can happen is that she will turn her back on you and walk away. What does that mean to you? Of course, it is not really a pleasant experience, but you this is an experience you learn from and move on. You improve your weak areas and try again till you succeed.

It is important that you work on your social skills if they are poor. If you have no idea how to maintain a conversation, how to flirt without sounding desperate, how to present yourself as a strong confident alpha male, then you are not ready to approach women yet.

Work on these areas, read, go into training if you have to, and practice. Practice is the key. Once you are ready just go out and approach the first attractive woman. Don’t think or over-analyze. Just make this step and start talking.

You might think it is a big deal (and for you it is at the moment) but actually it is not. Don’t make approaching women be tougher than it is. If you put too much pressure on yourself, you will never be able to make this first step and say ‘Hi!’.

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You have studied a number of books, websites and articles and believe you are ready to go out there and approach women. The only problem is that you have no idea where to meet women. Of course, the first places that come to your mind are quite obvious – bars and parties. But you really don’t feel like going to a bar or have had enough of clubs, or probably by now you already know all the habitués of bars and night-clubs.

Your only concern is that you really don’t know where to meet women who would qualify to get your attention. What you also don’t know is that women are everywhere; you only have to look more attentively. You should not miss any opportunity to strike up a conversation with a woman wherever it might be.

But before that you obviously have to make a list of places where to meet women. It might sound surprising but almost every place of your daily routine if filled with women. If you just open your eyes you will see them everywhere.

Below you will find a few obvious places where you can meet women and start a conversation without actually being creepy or considered a stalker.

Well I’m glad you’re here with me and learning these life-enhancing skills. Meeting women will be the easiest skill you could have with some practice.

• Bookstores

There is always quite a number of women in there, choosing books for themselves or friends, and just waiting to be approached by the man. No, really. Aren’t bookstores a perfect setting in many movies? Why not make them a perfect setting in your life? You have a variety of choices of how to start a conversation. From “I would like to find a gift for my sister, do you mind helping me out? “ to “Hey, that’s a great book… haven’t  they turned it into the movie yet?” All you have to do is be creative.

• Supermarkets and grocery stores.

Here you also have a great number of choices of how to approach a woman. Ask for her help, or make some remark on what you both can observe in the supermarket.

• Shopping malls

Aren’t they the best places where you can meet women? Ask them for advice, get them help you, and there you are – talking to a woman.

• Parks

Parks can be really great places to meet women. Moreover they offer a great choice of situational openers to you. You just have to be a good observer and not to look frightening. Rest, as they say, will be history.

• Coffee shops

This might be one of the obvious choices to go first. Other than obvious, they are also good. There are always many women in there, often alone or in groups. Go in there, join her at a table and start talking. What can be easier?!

There are many more places where to meet women, such as bus stops and streets where you can ask for directions, social groups or dance classes, online dating or concerts. You only have to go out there and look at women instead of just passing by.

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Everyone wants to know how to get girls. Well, probably not everyone. Some already do, and some are even willing to share their secret techniques. How do these people know this? Where have they learnt all the tips and techniques? Why are they so successful and you have no idea where to start?

You might wonder if some people are born with knowledge of how to get girls while others are just helpless? And then you believe you are in that helpless category and wonder who to blame for this? Genes? Society? Your high-school?

If these are really the questions you are asking yourself then you are much more of a loser than you think you are. Sounds harsh? Well, probably you deserve it.

There are indeed people who seem to be born already knowing how to get girls. They do it easily and don’t think twice why they are so lucky. But for the rest of the guys it is a learning-and-failing process. And while some get up and work harder (read: more practice), others pretend they are just born this way and blame everything for their misfortune.

The thing is that there is none to blame but you. Of course, the path to get girls is not an easy one. But at least you should be going that one, move forward. Get rejected, that’s it! But without being rejected you won’t be accepted. Because if you give up that easily nobody will be able to help you.

You have generations of men who have gone this very same path before you. Those men left footprints. Find them and follow the way. It takes time and pain along the way but it is very rewarding because eventually you will learn how to get girls. Years later someone else will follow your path and you will proudly look back and say, ‘I’ve been there, and I did it.”

But before you get a chance to say this, let’s go through a number of recommendations that you might want to follow if you want to learn how to get girls.

• Be yourself

Don’t play games. At least don’t play the games when you have to be someone else. You can’t pretend all the way through. Eventually she will see the real you and wonder if that’s the man she wants near her.

• Be confident

Of course, you know this. You read it thousands of times. Everyone says this. The theory is ridden to death but it does not mean it isn’t true. Learn to be confident. This is something one can’t fake, so your only choice here is PRACTICE.

Among other recommendations that might help you get an idea of how to get girls you can often see the mention of positive attitude, sense of humor, ability to flirt and remain unobtrusive. It also helps if you are creative and original and keep her interested.

These are only few tips of how to get girls, but once you start working on getting it right you will see what works the best way for you. Just make sure you leave the blaming attitude aside and work towards your goal, let the chips fall where they may.

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There is a question every guy asks (or have asked in the past) himself on a regular basis. He keeps bugging friends, searches online and gets confused easily because of a lot of information that fills in the blanks in his brain. The information that keeps changing rapidly and does not give any results for some reason which makes the guy even more confused. If you still wonder what question keeps some guys sleepless at nights, you are a lucky one. But then, for some reason you are still reading an article about how to attract a girl.

Hundreds if not thousands of websites and e-books promise you instant success with women, saying that they will reveal to you the ultimate truth of how to attract a girl. What to believe and what not, it is your own business. But you should consider the possibility that some offer really great tips and techniques of how to attract a girl.

Before you start checking your archives and searching for those links and books finish reading the article. You might find something really helpful here, something to contribute to achieving your ultimate goal, namely to learn how to attract a girl.

Below you will find a few tips that focus on the areas one should improve when trying to attract a girl.

• Good looks are important

When we say here ‘good looks’ we don’t mean Brad Pitt kind of looks. You don’t have to look like a superstar or a model. But you have to wear clean clothes you look good in. If you don’t know what clothes suit you, then it is high time to figure it out. Take your sister out shopping and ask her to help you. Have got no sister? But you surely have someone to help you out. You have control over your own life.

• Confidence is even more important than good looks

You can only attract a girl if she sees you as a confident, cool guy who knows what he wants and how to get it. Be that guy! Not for her sake – for your own.

• Fight your weaknesses

You can’t learn how to attract a girl if you are weak. Women don’t need a weak man. They don’t want your problems to deal with. Not at the initial stage, at least. They want you to be strong; and it would be weird if you weren’t.

• Treat her as a woman

Okay, this one might sound strange, but many guys just forget that they are dealing with a woman. And a woman loves compliments, she liked being appreciated, she likes when a man shows interest. It is not really complicated to please a woman. You only have to make sure you are genuine because if you are not she will sense it right away. Acknowledge the way she looks, the efforts she made to get your attention. Give generous (but honest, too) praise.

• Use your sense of humor

This one is obvious. Being able to make a woman laugh is a great advantage. If you don’t know how to do this, learn. If you fail, learn more. Practice till you make it.

• Be the best at flirting

Flirting is the part of the process you can’t ignore. And you actually should not. Again, if you have no idea where to start, you probably should start with those books piled on your book shelf. Read, observe and practice. Then practice again.

There are hundreds of tips on how to attract a girl and they can’t be all covered in one short article but you sure got an idea and know where to start and what to improve. And once you are ready, go out there and make a girl feel special, this is a sure way to get her attracted.

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Dating – Wikipedia the free encyclopedia

When it comes to dating, some men are like children. They know what they want but they have no idea how to get it. They know where they want to be but they are confused how to get there. This is the main reason why dating advice for men is something absolutely necessary for many guys. Numerous dating columns, dating gurus, websites, and agencies sprout like mushrooms after the summer rains.

Men need to be guided; and this explains the popularity of dating advice for men. Now if we look at it and go through most of them, we will see that most dating advice for men handle the very same topics from different (and sometimes not-so-different angles).

The common aspects that are looked at through a magnifying glass often in dating advice for men are approaching women, talking to them, asking for their number, going on a date, etc.  But even after following those pieces of advice many men still complain that they did not achieve the desired results, i.e. got rejected nevertheless.

Does it mean that whatever dating advice for men has to offer is all wrong and makes no sense, and definitely will not help a man to get a woman he likes? It is not really so. The main problem is that we are used to consider dating advice as some ultimate truth, revelations by different coaches and gurus who have been there and done that, and who have a proven record of successful results. Funny, but we can’t really say that it isn’t true. Dating advice for men really works. The only problem here is that it works not for all. That is why we should take a moment and think what blocks we are missing in this foundation we are building.

Let’s first ponder why men need dating advice at all. What do they seek for in dating advice? Mostly people need advice when they are insecure about something, when they are not sure what to do and how not to ruin what they have. If we dig deeper we will see that it roots in the lack of self-sufficiency, self-confidence and self-respect.

So, if we examine the matter a bit more profoundly, we will see that dating advice for men should not focus on the tips what to say and when to call the girl but rather on the ways to increase the man’s self-confidence, change the man’s perception about himself.

Dating advice for men can and will only be helpful if the man knows what he is worth and acts accordingly. Women want strong men with a great understanding about their own social position. The object of dating advice for men should be to teach them to be men in the real sense of this word. And the main point here is not be someone a woman would like but rather be someone you will like yourself, a person you can be proud of. The rest will follow.

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What can be more fun than flirting with girls? Flirting is an inevitable part of human socialization. You might not notice or not admit but you are flirting almost daily without it given a thought. Remember that new girl in the office? Or the sister of your room mate who unexpectedly came by? Last week you even flirted with your boss! Why not?! She is a woman, too.

Flirting belongs to those aspects in our communication that are of the utmost importance. If you don’t know anything about flirting with girls, you are a lost case. No wonder you don’t really have any success with girls.

When you approach a girl and go beyond the opener, you are supposed to get her attracted. Sometimes all you have is just a few minutes. Flirting could be of great help to make a good impression. Provided you do it right.  The main purpose of flirting (or at least one of them) is to show the girl that you are interested. But if you aren’t good at flirting with girls, you are losing the faintest chance that she will respond positively.

You might have heard (or read) that the idea of flirting is very difficult to grasp and flirting itself is very difficult to learn. Ignore everything you have read so far. Those are losers talking. Those who did not give it much a try but ready to judge immediately. If you want to be really good at flirting, forget what anyone ever has said to you. You are starting anew. And you are trying your best, that’s the only thing that matters when you start flirting with girls.

Before you start your learning process you should understand the basics. First of all, flirting is a game. There are rules set by someone long ago, probably in ancient times. Your task is to creatively stick to those rules. To stick to them because this is what girls expect you to do. Creatively because this is something they don’t expect. When flirting with girls you should learn to use the situation to your benefits. Play by rules and create your own, should be your motto. While flirting is pretty much a researched area, you will find many ways to use your own skills and knowledge to enhance it.

The idea of flirting (among others) is to create sexual tension. You should manage to bring sexual attraction into your conversation without sounding weird or out of place.

Below you will see a few things that might be essential for flirting with girls:

• Body language. Again and again you will see that body language matters a lot when you want to say something you don’t want to be said aloud.
• Casual physical contact. If you want to bring sensuality into the game, touching can’t be avoided. Just don’t overdo it. Those should be casual touches.
• Sense of humor. It is a part of any conversation. A great sense of humor will help you to be funny and playful without sounding creepy at the same time.

Those are only few aspects you should focus on when you are flirting with girls. There are more, of course, one of them being your own confidence and self-reliance. Flirting with girls is a lot of fun if you don’t make it a job. Make sure you learn to be the best at it.

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One of the many questions that come up when you start meeting and dating girls is how to tell if a girl likes you. The reasons for this might be quite different. You might be genuinely interested in the girl and want to know before you proceed if she feels the same way. Or you are just plain vain and would like to pamper your vanity by knowing that a girl likes you. In any case you should be aware of a few things important aspects that will teach you how to tell if a girl likes you.

When you are out there you should always remember that dating is a game. The rules are known by everyone but then not everyone plays by them. You should learn the rules and use them to your benefit. So, if you want to know how to tell if a girl likes you you should be able to recognize signs, even the not-so-obvious type.

There is hardly any girl on planet Earth that will tell you directly that yes, she likes you. Most probably she will expect you to figure it out by yourself or make the first step and give her the pleasure of embarrassing you when saying that she never felt the same way about you. And you sure wouldn’t like to be put into a situation like this.

You don’t want to come as a too desperate guy with no self-respect, do you? This is the main reason why you should be learning how to tell if a girl likes you. It is not as complicated as you might think. You only should focus on a few things that matter the most and be perfect at analyzing the smallest changes in a girl’s behavior. Observation is a key.

So, what are those things you need to know when you want to tell if a girl likes you?

• Always pay attention to body language

Our bodies speak their own language even when we are silent. They show something we would like to hide the most. There are certain signs that could indicate a girl’s interest.

§  If you notice her looking at you when you are not looking

§  She isn’t afraid of eye contact

§  She touches you occasionally

§  She smiles at you

§  She leans over to you when you talk as if she want to hear more properly

• Flirting

As you sure know dating is some kind of a game, and flirting is an inevitable part of it. If the girl wastes her time on flirting with you, it means you have got a shot.

• Pay attention to the way she talks to you

It is important to see how she talks to you, if she seems genuinely interested. A good sign is if she likes your sense of humor and laughs at your jokes. Another good sign of her interest is the level of communication you two have. Does she give proper answers or just one syllable ones? Does she ask questions or only answers yours? Do you run out of questions when you talk to her because she does not seem to be involved? Don’t lie to yourself. Things like that are an obvious give away when a girl isn’t interested.

Of course there are many more ways on how to tell if a girl likes you.  All of them suggest you being observing and paying attention to the way she acts when she is with you.

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For a couple of months already you have been thinking of getting a girlfriend. You think that you are ready for a new phase in your life and some bits of stability. You learned a lot of tricks of how to approach a girl, how to talk to her, you stopped having goose bumps when you have to call a girl. Yes you have no idea how to get a girlfriend.

You believe you are a great guy. You are cool, you are smart, handsome. You are funny. You even have a great job. But… you don’t have a girlfriend. And you really would like to know how to get one.

To get a girlfriend is not a big problem. You only have to find its roots before proceed to actions.

The first step here would be self-analysis. Dig as deep as you can. Is it your smell that drives the girls away? Is it the way you dress? Should you change cologne? These are the few most obvious. Do you know how to maintain conversation? Are your jokes funny? Do you come play a nice guy or a bad boy image? Go deeper still. Are you confident enough? Do you believe in yourself? Have you worked enough on your inner game?

You can dig even a level deeper. Because if you don’t find the roots of your problem, you will never learn how to get a girlfriend.

There are a few reasons why a girl will say ‘no’ to you.

• You are too immature. She doesn’t want a younger brother. She probably has one.
• You are not confident enough. Girls sense it almost immediately. They don’t want to date some loser who doubts if he is good enough. Make sure you are NOT that loser.
• You are too arrogant. Overconfidence is not what she seeks for. Find a balance. Don’t come as an arrogant jerk. She has had her share of them.
• You are too selfish. In a relationship you have to share and compromise. If you are not ready for this, you are not ready for a relationship.

After having gone through an extensive analysis you can actually proceed to the next step of a venture called how to get a girlfriend.

First of all, even when actively searching don’t stop communication with the women you know, acquaintances, friends, friends of friends. Practice is the key word here.

When you approach a girl don’t think about her as about your potential girlfriend. That will only make you look desperate. Girls tend to stay away from desperate guys.

If you want to get a girlfriend, be yourself. You already know that you are a good guy. Throw in some confidence and go on. Be at your best and charm every girl on your way. Go out more, live an exciting life and stop thinking about your ultimate goal (how to get a girlfriend). It sounds aas a cliché but the best things come when you don’t expect them or stop waiting for them. So don’t.

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