How To Approach Women

Believe it or not but not every one of those who approach women easily have always been natural. It is only normal to feel insecurities and fear, sometimes very ungrounded. But it is absolutely not normal to let this fear reign over your life. Many guys actually at least have an idea how to approach women. However, they either consider themselves too shy and don’t proceed further, or justify their not taking any actions by some crazy fear that they will be rejected right on spot with a slap across their face or a drink thrown right in it.

The thing is that eventually they will be rejected. Everyone is. But this is surely no reason to shut yourself down and not do anything to change the situation. If you want to know how to approach women and you want to do it right, you have to start with yourself and get rid of all possible fears that you might have.

First of all, bear in mind that having approach anxiety is normal. It is probably not normal not to have it. Who claim they got rid of it either are lying and hiding their own insecurities, or have practiced approaching women so many times that they really have forgotten what approach anxiety is. To make you feel better – the first group is much larger.

If you want to learn how to approach women, the first thing you should do is to fight your insecurities and build a great self-confidence. If you aren’t confident enough, the girl will see it even before you open your mouth. Rejection guaranteed. So before you try and approach a woman, fix your own problems. Build up your inner game, focus on gaining strength, self-confidence and self-respect. Because if you don’t respect yourself enough, who else will?

Once you believe you are confident enough, start approaching women wherever you meet them. Remember that at first rejections might be very common. Don’t fret over it. Just keep on practicing. The art of approaching a woman can be learnt. And if you are a good student you will finally earn your A or A+ .

When you are learning how to approach women, make a list of places where you can meet them. It can be your local grocery store, or international trade show in your city, the conference you go to next month, etc. The list can become pretty long but it serves your purpose which is to practice approaching women which means that you have to meet many women every place possible.

Before you start doing it regularly play some of the scenarios in your head. Play the best case and the worst case scenario. The worst that can happen is that she will turn her back on you and walk away. What does that mean to you? Of course, it is not really a pleasant experience, but you this is an experience you learn from and move on. You improve your weak areas and try again till you succeed.

It is important that you work on your social skills if they are poor. If you have no idea how to maintain a conversation, how to flirt without sounding desperate, how to present yourself as a strong confident alpha male, then you are not ready to approach women yet.

Work on these areas, read, go into training if you have to, and practice. Practice is the key. Once you are ready just go out and approach the first attractive woman. Don’t think or over-analyze. Just make this step and start talking.

You might think it is a big deal (and for you it is at the moment) but actually it is not. Don’t make approaching women be tougher than it is. If you put too much pressure on yourself, you will never be able to make this first step and say ‘Hi!’